So you’ve been curious about double dildos, huh? Same. Whether it’s your first time or you're looking to spice things up with your partner, you're in the right place. At SAPHETTE (formerly Eros Song), we’re all about creating lesbian sex toys designed by lesbians, for lesbians. So let’s talk about one of our favorite toys in the collection: the double dildo.

This guide is here to break it all down in a way that feels good. No jargon. Just real talk, pleasure, and queer joy.

 

What Even Is a Double Dildo?

A double ended sex toy, aka double dildo, is basically one long toy with two heads—one at each end. It’s meant to be shared, but you can also totally use it solo. Whether you’re into vaginal-vaginal, anal-vaginal, or even just some intense clit pressure play, this baby’s got you.

You’ll find dildos for lesbians in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Some are slim and flexible, others thick and firm. Material-wise? Most are silicone, but there are also options in glass, metal, and rubber. The important thing is finding what you like.

 

Why It’s a Vibe for Queer Women

The double ended dildo is like the holy grail of lesbian couple sex toys. It’s perfect for those looking to experience mutual penetration and mutual orgasm. You and your partner can enjoy it together—at the same time. Or take turns. It’s really about what works for you two.

This toy is versatile, intimate, and just plain fun. It gives you room to explore new positions, angles, and dynamics. And because we know representation matters, SAPHETTE lesbian toys are made for us. Not a side-thought. Not an after-market adaptation. Just real, queer pleasure.

AI-powered lavender dual-ended vibrator with remote control and mobile app interface, designed for long-distance play and enhanced pleasure, ideal sex toy for lesbian couples, by SAPHETTE formerly known as Eros Song.

Before You Play

Alright, before you get wild, let’s talk prep.

  1. Clean your toy. Wash it before and after with mild soap and warm water. Or use a toy cleaner if that’s more your vibe.

  2. Check the surface. Wherever you’re playing—bed, couch, floor—make it comfy and safe. Soft blankets, no sharp edges.

  3. Talk it out. Chat with your partner about boundaries, turn-ons, and safe words if that’s your thing. Communication = hot.

  4. Use lubricant. Seriously. Even if you’re super aroused, lube will make everything smoother and more enjoyable. Use water-based lube with silicone toys. Silicone lube can break down the material.

 

First Time Using a Double Dildo? Here’s What You Should Know

If it’s your first time, take a deep breath. You don’t have to be a pro to enjoy it. Start slow.

  • Many users say it helps if the person wearing the insertable end climaxes first. That way, the bulb end stays in better and doesn’t feel like it’s slipping out.

  • Insert the shorter bulb first, and work those pelvic floor muscles to keep it snug.

  • Go at your own pace. There’s no rush to get both ends in right away.

  • Always—yes, always—use lots of lube.

You can use dual ended vibrators that buzz, pulse, or just do their thing quietly. If you want to level up, that’s a great next step.

 

Fun Positions to Try

Now for the good stuff. Here are some tried-and-true positions for lesbian sex toys like the double dildo:

  • Face to Face: Lay in front of each other, insert the toy, and rock back and forth. It’s intimate and hot AF.

  • Reverse Cowgirl: One partner lies down, the other gets on top, facing away. Take turns riding the toy.

  • Doggy Style: One partner takes the back end, the other controls the front. Great for thrusting rhythm and control.

  • All Fours: Kneel back to back, both facing away, and insert each end. Move together slowly for mutual sensation.

  • Crab Position: Sit facing each other, lift into a semi-crab pose, insert the toy, and thrust together. Eye contact is 🔥.

Here are more lesbian sex positions with lesbian strap-on suggested by us, SAPHETTE.

 

Add More Toys, Why Not?

Pairing your double dildo with other lesbian adult toys can seriously upgrade your experience. Try a bullet vibrator or a clit suction toy during penetration. It’s a game-changer, especially if you or your partner need extra stimulation to reach orgasm.

That’s the beauty of sex toys for both—they can work together to give you next-level pleasure.

 

Aftercare and Safety Tips

You’ve played, you’ve moaned, you’ve maybe even cried (no shame, we love a good release). Now it’s time for care.

  • Wash the toy again with gentle soap.

  • Dry it thoroughly before storing.

  • Keep it in a clean toy pouch or container—especially if it's silicone, so it doesn’t rub up against other materials.

  • Cuddle, hydrate, or just breathe together. Emotional aftercare matters just as much.

 

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  • Don’t skip lube. Ever.

  • Don’t rush the experience—foreplay is your best friend.

  • Don’t ignore discomfort. If something feels off, stop and reset.

  • Don’t mix silicone lube with silicone toys—trust us.

 

Solo Play? Hell Yes.

Double dildos aren’t just for couples. If you’re solo, bend it into a “U” shape and find your rhythm. Whether you want dual penetration or a flexible handle for better control, it’s all good.

Use it however your body needs. There’s no wrong way to explore your pleasure.

 

Debunking the Myths

Let’s clear a few things up:

  • “They’re only for experienced users.” Nope. With the right size and lube, beginners can totally enjoy them.

  • “You have to use it with a partner.” False. Solo play is valid and powerful.

  • “They’re uncomfortable.” Not when you choose the right size and go slow. Promise.

 

Introducing Duopeak (Doupeak): AI-Powered Lesbian Pleasure

Illustration of two women in an intimate face-to-face position using a double ended dildo, representing mutual pleasure with lesbian sex toys for couples.

Our invention, Duopeak (Doupeak), is a next-gen toy that uses AI to learn your movements and enhance sensation. It’s built for lesbian couples, giving you intelligent feedback and customizing rhythm based on your body’s reaction.

This is SAPHETTE innovation—pleasure tech for queer bodies.

 

Explore SAPHETTE (formerly Eros Song)

At SAPHETTE, we design sex toys for lesbians with love, creativity, and full attention to queer intimacy. No awkward rebrands of hetero toys. Just real lesbian sex toys made for connection, fun, and joy.

Browse our collection of lesbian couple sex toys, from dual ended vibrators to beginner kits. Whether you’re new to toys or deep into your collection, we’ve got something for every body.

 

Final Thoughts

Using a double ended sex toy isn’t just about technique—it’s about tuning into yourself and your partner. Whether you’re laughing through the awkward first try, hitting a rhythm that rocks your world, or just being playful, it’s all part of the magic.

So don’t overthink it. Use what feels good. Experiment. Be queer. Be you.

With love, from the SAPHETTE team 💜