Fluid release during orgasm—sometimes referred to as female ejaculation—is a natural response to stimulation of the G-spot, urethral sponge, and paraurethral glands (also known as Skene’s glands) located on the front wall of the vagina. While not everyone will experience it, many people report that exploring this type of response enhances their sexual pleasure, intimacy, and connection—whether through fingers, a sex toy, or partnered touch.
Let’s talk openly about pleasure, anatomy, and fluid release during sex. Understanding why some people with vaginas release fluid during intimacy is important for our sexual health. For queer women and those exploring sex with people who have vulvas, this guide is all about removing shame and leaning into joy.
Understanding Fluid Release During Orgasm
Some individuals release fluid from the urethral opening during heightened arousal or climax. This can happen due to stimulation of the G-spot or urethral sponge, which is located on the front wall of the vagina. While often referred to as squirting, this release can vary in quantity and composition.
Exploring the Difference Between Fluid Expulsion and Female Ejaculation
Fluid expulsion is commonly described in mainstream media and adult content as a dramatic release. Female ejaculation, however, often refers to a smaller amount of white or milky fluid originating from the paraurethral glands, also called Skene’s glands. Both are normal responses to intense sexual stimulation.
Is the Fluid Released During Orgasm Just Urine?
The short answer: not exactly. While the fluid can contain traces of urine due to its origin in the bladder, it also contains markers like prostate-specific antigen (PSA) and glucose—indicators of activity from the paraurethral glands. Most people describe it as looking and smelling different from urine.
What Does This Type of Orgasm Feel Like?
A global online survey involving over 320 women revealed that nearly 80% felt that experiencing fluid release during sex positively enhanced their intimate lives. The sensation varies from person to person. Some describe it as an emotional, wave-like release, while others say it feels like pressure followed by relief. It's deeply personal and can be influenced by mental state, physical stimulation, and pelvic floor relaxation.
Can Every Person with a Vagina Experience Fluid Release?
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Not necessarily. While many can explore this experience with practice, anatomy plays a role. The size and presence of the Skene’s glands differ from person to person. Having less developed glands or different muscle sensitivity can mean this type of response simply doesn’t happen—and that’s perfectly valid.
How Common Is Fluid Expulsion During Sex?
Though under-researched, surveys suggest anywhere from 10% to over 50% of people with vaginas have experienced some form of intense fluid release. Cultural, emotional, and physical factors all influence this.
How to Support Fluid Release: A Guided Approach
Start with trust and open communication. Creating a safe, pressure-free environment allows your partner (or yourself) to relax into pleasure. Deep breathing, foreplay, and consistent stimulation of the G-spot area can help trigger these sensations.
Solo Exploration: Learning What Your Body Likes
Get curious. Use your fingers or a curved sex toy designed for internal stimulation to explore the urethral sponge. Focus on rhythm, pressure, and body cues. If you feel the urge to pee, that might mean you're on the right track. Stay hydrated and be patient.
The Role of the G-Spot in Fluid Release
The G-spot is part of the internal clitoral network and is rich in nerve endings. Located about two inches inside the front vaginal wall, stimulating this area with firm, gentle pressure may lead to heightened pleasure or fluid expulsion.
Combining Clitoral and Internal Stimulation
Many people benefit from dual stimulation. A blend of clitoral play and internal massage increases blood flow and arousal. Some people report that this combination is key to achieving a deep release or orgasmic experience.
Supporting a Partner Through Exploration
Let your partner lead. Whether using hands, your mouth, or a G-spot toy, tune into their cues. Apply pressure where it feels good and offer gentle support with your other hand on their lower belly. Never force or rush the process.
Recommended Tools for G-Spot Stimulation
Curved dildos, lesbian vibrators with firm pressure, and toys that offer dual stimulation are all helpful. Choose body-safe materials and waterproof options for easy cleaning. For queer couples, we, SAPHETTE toys (formerly Eros Song), offer designs tailored to varied anatomy and preferences.
Common Misunderstandings About Fluid Expulsion
- It’s not fake—it’s medically recognized.
- Not everyone will experience it, and that’s okay.
- The volume varies from a few drops to a gush.
- It doesn’t always happen with orgasm.
If It Doesn’t Happen—That’s Totally Fine
Every body is different. You are not broken or missing out if this isn’t part of your experience. Pleasure doesn’t depend on fluid volume. The focus should always be on connection and what feels good.
Safety and Hygiene During Exploration
- Empty your bladder beforehand for comfort.
- Use gloves or finger condoms to reduce infection risk.
- Clean toys before and after use.
- Use protection during oral or penetrative sex.
Preparing for Potential Mess
Use towels, waterproof blankets, or absorbent pads. Keep tissues nearby. Whatever makes you feel comfortable and able to stay in the moment.
Voices from the Community
Many queer women and non-binary folks have shared that exploring fluid release added confidence, joy, and fun to their intimacy. Some found it empowering, while others found it deeply emotional. There’s no right way to feel.
Conclusion
Fluid expulsion during sex is a natural experience for some people. Whether you’ve experienced it, are curious, or never do—it’s all okay. Your sexual pleasure is valid no matter what. Focus on connection, exploration, and what feels good for you and your partner.