A gold star refers to someone who hasn’t done something, hence getting a gold star for keeping their purity. And a Gold Star Lesbian, is someone who hasn’t had sex with a man before. Lately, the term ‘Gold Star Lesbian’ has been a trending topic on TikTok, sparking debate within the WLW community. Is it a bold objection towards this heteronormative society, or just biphobic in disguise? Let’s discuss.
Celebration of Identity
It’s 2025, the last thing the LGBTQ+ community needs is another infighting. The community always preaches about self-expression but reacts harshly when people choose to express themself in a subversive way. We are all sick and tired of another long Twitter Trend debating about labels and identity, the world still has much hatred against us, and we need unity within the community to overcome the difficulties set down by society together. If self-identifying as a Gold Star Lesbian feels empowering, then so be it. After all, personal identity is just personal, it’s not anyone’s business. Let’s focus on creating a more inclusive and safe space for each other, as through mutual respect, we can truly thrive.
Biphobic? Girls who dated boys aren’t truly lesbian?
Everything has a good and bad aspect, ‘Gold Star Lesbian’ can be empowering and degrading at the same time, depending on the intention. It creates a hierarchy within the WLW community, putting ‘Gold Star Lesbian’ on top, disregarding any sexual experience others have. Not all lesbians reach the point of acceptance on one random sunny day, many experience relationships with men before realizing who they truly are, and enforcing the term diminishes the complexity of sexual discovery; Plus, the term reinforces purity culture, which is deeply rooted in the patriarchy. The idea that one's own self-worth is tied to one’s sexual history is extremely harmful, it is against what the LGBTQ+ community stands for: fluid, diverse, and freedom.
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